My DH also lost his father in his 50s. He was 18. And although he is not as big a fan of the long, complex, more adventurous things I enjoy, he does do more travel than most people and really enjoys all the perks our hobby can provide. He also is very supportive of my solo travel because after his mother was widowed, she hit the road and was an avid adventurer until she was struck with Alzheimers way too early. So he gets it and realizes you have to travel when you can!
I haven't done a solo trip yet. Other than flying out to visit my Dad or son, or business trips - no vacations. DH would be sad. Said he didn't have time to take the South Africa trip, so I asked my son - I think that surprised him. He was upset when the time came and he wasn't going with us. I don't think he will say no again!
I've been traveling solo all of my adult life, so I would be sad if my DH were sad for me to do it, if that makes sense. And he has no interest in retirement any time soon even though he is eligible, so all of the travel I want to do would never happen if I waited for his availability. He married me in full knowledge of my travel addiction
He would be sad he wasn't going with me - but he wouldn't try to stop me. To be fair, we had already gone on two major trips this year and had a 2.5 week trip planned in October. We are in the same boat. He loves his job and doesn't want to retire. So his time is limited. And I would miss his company too. BUT ...I've been traveling solo all of my adult life, so I would be sad if my DH were sad for me to do it, if that makes sense. And he has no interest in retirement any time soon even though he is eligible, so all of the travel I want to do would never happen if I waited for his availability. He married me in full knowledge of my travel addiction
I am gone a lot, but he works a lot. I guess I could say I married him in full knowledge of his work addiction. But even when we have something planned he will need to cancel for work. We are both super independent and 35 years of marriage has not changed that one iota.
It doesn't have anything to do with lack of independence on our part. It's about what we like to share together. And 20 years of marriage has thankfully not changed that!
Agreed also wish I would have gotten this sooner although we made great use of it once we got it lead to achieving our goal of all 50 states visited
While my wish for "modesty first" remains, it's clear to me that my travel has always been a function of earning AND burning opportunities. When it was possible to churn AA Exec cards, I did and put those to good use. When UA F redemption devaluated immensely, I made the aspirational redemption, which happened to be early in my timeline, but it was then or never.
Ha ha! My husband couldn't believe we were flying coach to Reykjavik. We survived. On the way back we were at the back of the plane which was not full and he took a whole row. I stayed and took our two seats. Later in the summer will likely be full planes though.
